Holly Shahverdi, Doctoral Counselling Psychologist in Training (www.hollyshahverdipsychology.co.uk), shares her advice on managing difficult conversations around coronavirus, things to do on lockdown and distress tolerance skills.
What makes the coronavirus situation uniquely challenging is that it is a situation we cannot control or escape. This is why distress tolerance skills are going to be key in surviving in lockdown. Learning how to tolerate distress and work through the moment in highly stressful and inescapable situations are key to surviving crisis situations.
And remember, just because they call it ‘social distancing’ there are still ways to get in touch with people. Try calling or video calling instead of typing as just the sound of someone’s voice may make all the difference!
Managing Conversations about Coronavirus
“Can you just shut up talking about this?”
“I hear you and I understand that this is a difficult time but please can we change the subject because this is making me feel anxious”.
“You’re totally over/under reacting”
Remember that we don’t always know what is on people’s minds. Try to be open and non-judgemental when you don’t understand someone’s reaction.
“Yeah… I’ll be there in 10 minutes”
“Actually, that doesn’t feel comfortable for me right now but maybe we can call each other?”